Demi's Sextion Send-Off
My lovely readers,This school year is coming to a close and with it goes my reign as Sextion writer. It's a bittersweet ending, but also so exciting! I get to expand my blogging to non-Sextion posts and a new voice will soon join Blog and take a fresh perspective on this column in the fall. Maybe this person will let me collab with them on the Sextion every once in a while, making this post a goodbye, but hopefully not forever!It's been a great first year at Brown full of new friends, a bit of schoolwork, and yes, a few hookups here and there. I've always been pretty open about the fact that I consider myself a feelings-type; my pseudonym is Demisexual Lovato, after all. Back in September, I was beyond excited to have so many prospective boyfriends around (I was #done with all of the boys in my high school). And even though I've been brutally single this entire year, it was all-around one of the best years of my life.A few things I've learned in my freshman year about hooking up, love, sex, and everything in between:1.) It's entirely possible to have awful sex with someone you think you're in love with.2.) It's equally possible to have great sex with someone you hardly know at all. Who you vibe with sexually sometimes makes no sense, but life makes no sense in general, so fuck it!!3.) Vampires are alive and well:
It looks like I was punched in the chest... HAHAHA.
4.) Exes are not to be trifled with. They get maaaaaad when you trifle with them.
5.) Hooking up with your TA is all it's cracked up to be!!
6.) Tinder is not creepy... usually. It's fun! I went on a lovely date with a guy from Tinder when I was home for spring break and I will continue to argue with those who try to stigmatize Tinder-users (like myself) till the end of my days. Grrrrr.
7.) You haven't lived until you've used a vibrator.
8.) I am not somehow a lesser person because I didn't click with anyone emotionally this year. It's freshman year; you're not supposed to meet your life partner (you seniors though.. watch out hehe).
9.) Putting yourself out there can suck sometimes, but the positives definitely outweigh the possible negatives.
10.) Random hookups are like chocolate: fun, pleasurable, and immediately gratifying. However, we all have limits as to how much of each of them that we can handle until we get sick. Where this limit is varies from person to person, but there's no shame in being "done with the game" and there's no shame in wanting to take a new person home every weekend!
11.) YOUR FRIENDS ARE PRIORITY #1. NO HOOKUP IS WORTH LOSING THEM!! On a related note, shout-out to H., A., L., and A. for keeping me sane this year. I love you all so much.
12.) For the first time in my life, I have lots of guy friends and I can confidently say that many of my favorite memories of this year have been with them. If you're used to hanging out with either all guys or all girls, try cultivating new friendships with a more gender-diverse group! It's not as intimidating as it seems and can actually be really helpful in trying to find potential hookups.
13.) Don't waste your time (or in my case, an entire semester) chasing after someone who doesn't want you. I know it's so hard to let go of feelings, but you always feel so much better when you do.
Thank you for being there with me as I blogged my way through the sexual ups and downs of my freshman year! I hope you all have a great summer, and I'll see you next fall (though under my real name hehe). Ta-ta for now!
With soooo much love,
Demi
Image via and from my hilarious sexual encounter circa March.